Healing your relationships start with you.

We need to accept people for who and where they are in life and sometimes it’s not them that need to change. It is us. We need to accept that we need more and that is not selfish. That they are giving all they can. You can only love someone as much as you love yourself. You can only accept as much love as you were given as a child. When you pour love onto someone that can’t accept it, it feels gross to them. Sounds strange, I know. Love doesn’t always feel good, even though from your prospective it is kind and loving. They can’t handle how that feels on the inside of their body. The emotional body would experience the same kind of response that the physical body would experience if a person didn’t eat for weeks, water only, then ate a steak. Their belly would have the worse stomach pains because it wasn’t used to having to digest food. It would then take time for the body to work up to the point where eating food became normal without pain. Emotional starvation is the same. If someone that has never had consistent love, kind words, attention, admiration or feel worthy, they too would need time to adjust. Unfortunately, people understand physical eating and diet much better than what our subconscious and emotional bodies need.

You also can not ask others to give you something they actually cannot. They cannot give you something like kind words, attention, truth, honesty if they don’t possess themselves. It would be like asking a blind person to describe a rainbow to you. It is not their fault they can’t. The pain and frustration between your relationship is trying to give each other what you don’t have or won’t accept.

You can’t do the work for them. Everyone has a journey. Not everyone sees they could change for the better or even want to change. Change is something that happens every day, regardless if we see it or not. Yet, people fear it. You have to be willing to accept people for where they are. They may not be willing to change. So instead, work on you. Someone or something is waiting for your kind of love, your type of relationship, commitment and communication. If you keep holding out and waiting for this person, or career to change, you are only holding yourself back.

The real healing starts when you know in your heart that you should move on but don’t know how. There is a trapped emotion in you that says to hold on for some subconscious reason. You will have this constant fight between your head and your heart every day. I’ll tell you; emotions (your heart) will win every time. Your emotions tell you mind what to do. Not the other way around. Once your emotions have had the clarity of why you can’t let go or move on, you will move on. Understanding is power, and in Hypnosis we use the subconscious to get to the root of the issue, transform the belief. Not in years, but profound healing, sometimes in a few sessions. Habits and limiting beliefs that would take years to unravel with traditional therapy. You then can create wonderful relationships, new careers and life styles that you actually love and deserve.

We all have a journey. Yours is to heal, grow and be you. When you start healing you, you start healing the world.

Reinventing life at any age

You would never show up at the airport with luggage, walk to the counter and say I need a ticket to anywhere and expect to have the most amazing vacation, would you? Life is just like that. We need to have an idea of what we want to experience. We need to know what to pack or unpack. Your luggage is full of old beliefs that are holding you back and don’t need to go. You may also need to swap them for some upgraded confidence and self-worth. Plus, if you give someone else the choice of where you go, I’m telling you, it’s more than likely where they want to go. Not where you had in mind. Stop allowing others to plan your life, make choices for you and live out their life. If you just show up, life will just happen. Take charge of your own life. Reinvent the person you want to be. Start from where you are. I can help plan that out with you.

Seems impossible you think. I know, I thought the same thing. How in the midst of all this chaos do I change this situation to a life that I want? Seem like a distant mountain and you have no idea how to even start. Yeah, either did I. Yet, here I am. Living a life I dreamed of. That’s where you start. Right from this very spot. It doesn’t matter if you feel like you can’t get out or have no money or support. If your mind can visualize it, it can happen. Your mind is brilliant and can create many different paths you want. You just have to be clear enough to know where and what that looks like. Our minds, when given a task will do whatever it takes to make it happen. Somethings can and have happened overnight, other things will take time for the outside world to catch up to your dreams.  This is not woo woo stuff. There are studies out there that show your brain doesn’t know the difference between real and not real when it comes to visualizing things. If in your mind you are practicing playing the piano, it’s the same as actually practicing on a piano. The same parts of your brain will light up. Fascinating. When you believe in something, your mind makes it happen.

Change your mindset is number one. Let go of limiting beliefs. They hold you back from the person that you are. That person is within you. You have just forgot they are in there. Someone has put limits on you that are not yours to carry any longer. When you believe those lies, you will not move beyond them, even though you have so much more potential. You are stuck in lies.

Change the labels others have put on you. When you were born, you were given a script and mask of who you should be. Sound familiar? Be this person, not you. So unfair. Before you could even show the world who you are, you were told not to show up. Play a part and stay in line. Ask yourself the hard questions. What do I not like about my life and why? Where would I have gotten that belief? Is this something I can change? Start questioning everything. Then start asking yourself, what do I like? What are my preferences? Slowly you will start seeing glimpse of yourself, keep going and hold your ground. Peal back the labels and find you.

Prioritize yourself. We have been conditioned to always put other first. Yes, there are time we need to do that. A lot of times, we are filling other peoples cups up before our own. Not to mention that our cup is pretty dry. We do not have much left to give. Focus on your mental, emotional, physical and spiritual health. This is your foundation. Check in with yourself through out the day, set a timer if needed, to see where you are running low and make adjustments. 1% change everyday is all you need for a 365% change in 1 year, remember that. Small and steady wins at life. Know you are enough!

Change habits. Good or bad they shape where life goes. Hypnotherapy can help transform habits into life changing results. Letting go of ones that hold you back for moving ahead will shift your life. Are you ready for a shift?

Step out of your comfort zone. We will stay in a zone even if it makes us suffer. People fear the unknown. That is something that we have been taught. We would rather stay with the known pain than the uncertainty of the future. When you can get beyond that fear, great things will happen. Thank goodness Christpher Columbus didn’t fear the ocean or that Henry Ford didn’t care what his neighbors thought about his automobile idea. If we started to care more about how we felt and thought about our life, over what the outside world felt and thought, what kind of better world would we be living in? Build confidence! Fear will fall away.     

Plan your life out. This is something we were never taught. Yet when we are building businesses and working for others, there is a plan. You need one too. When you have a clear direction of where you are going, a north star, you are more likely to make it. Get clear on what that is. I work with people to figure out what that is. Investing time in planning out our life shows your heart and mind that you mean business. They need to work together and the will. We just haven’t ever been shown that. Once you start seeing the plan work out, you will be amazed.  Lean in to yourself!

Trapped within myself

I can look back at my last 47 years and see how far I have come. The achievements I have had. The loses. The joy and heartbreak. My biggest moment is when I finally let go of the person, I thought I had to be. I can remember what it felt like to be trapped in a space where I couldn’t move or breathe. How I thought, which mostly was confused, is where my life was going? I wondered if I could hold all my emotion in, financially take care of it all, raise 2 daughters and come across as this perfect woman to the world. All because I didn’t want to be rejected. I never felt that I was good enough. Yet looking back, holy crap, I did all that stuff. I did keep my emotion in check. I completely kicked ass when it came to financially providing for my daughters. While not always looking perfect, I was a good friend. Yet actually doing it, I still struggled inside because I was being told it wasn’t enough. I believed that lie.

I really felt trapped, empty and lifeless in my own body. I felt like I was spinning out of control. Our minds are brilliant in creating beliefs to keep us safe. They think they are helping and until there are told other-wise, they continue running the program they were designed to run.   This particular program was FEAR OF REJECTION. When we are born, we need to be a part of a tribe in order to survive. If you are rejected, they throw you out to fend and die by yourself. That does not sound great to me. This is all subconscious so it not like there is an alarm in our minds that goes off and says “hey! You don’t have to follow these rules anymore to live. You are free to make your own choices.”. If that happened, we all would be living out our best lives. We all have subconscious beliefs that run our lives. Some are really good beliefs that make us successful, achieve the goals, attract things we want. However, there are the ones that hide deep down that keep nagging us that we are not enough, that it is not available or that we are not loveable.

Looking back, I have so much compassion for her. Her unwillingness to see what reality was. I can see how she got there. I can see how hard she had to fight to get out of that trapped world that she created. Those beliefs trapped her in a world that was built on lies. We are trained little soldiers. Doing what we have been told. Stand in line, don’t talk and do this, not that. The program was created to run. As we get older, we then take the role as the leader, then commanding others to do the same. It’s a cycle we are trapped in. Only when you recognize that you are holding a weapon or one is being held to you, do you step back and say “Hey, what the hell? This does not feel good.” Awakening to oneself is huge. It’s finally looking at the little child inside and hearing them, understanding them and then protecting them in a way that should have been done back then. This is the true meaning to healing the inner child. We can not go back and expect the people that raised us or the people that hurt us to fix what they hurt or broke. Most of the time, they are unaware, unbothered, will make excuses, even though valid, it still gives no validation or closure to how we interpeptide the situation. It is really is up to us to go back with adult minds and make sense of it. This is shadow work. Going back to a time that sucked, bringing the much need light to it so then you can move on and release that trapped emotion and live the lives we really want and deserve.

The freedom I feel now is beyond words. I was trapped within myself. I was just a little girl in pain, still trying to figure out how to be enough. How to feel love in a world that seemed like it didn’t care. Also, to find stability in her surroundings that would make her feel safe enough to trust her gut and lean in.  

Every day I put my hands on my heart and thank the universe for this abundant life that I have, one that felt like I never deserved. I am so grateful for the lessons and the teachers out there. Staying small hurts from the inside out. Allowing myself to be heard, seen and loved has been the most precious gift I could have given to myself. I want the same for you.

Mood forecaster of the Family?

Are you the mood forecaster of the family? Whose emotions are you managing? Do you spend more time managing other peoples’ emotion over your own just so you can have a good day? Ever wonder how and why you do this? So many questions I ask you. First thing I know for sure, is that awareness to these questions is the first step in changing this pattern. Emotions start in the nervous system. It starts with a situation, it then hits your nervous system, then your emotions kick in, then you create a belief system, you then do an action and you get a result. That is the cycle or where patterns begin. This is the same pattern for good situations and bad ones. If you were taught in a good way how to handle that situation you will continue to have that always play out with minimal variance. However, if you didn’t have the support to work through the situation then you are unlikely to know how to act going forward. Creating that unhealthy pattern you don’t know how to get out of.

For example: You walk into a room where your parents are fighting, you have no idea why they are fighting. Your nervous system senses that this does not feel good. You tighten up, maybe hide, maybe think it’s your fault. Door slams, people leave or the silence treatment starts. No one comes to you to explain what happened. No one comforted you. The result, you were left with all kinds of questions, uncertain of what to feel and how to let go of the emotions that were just slammed at you. A pattern just started. You then will form a belief that maybe it’s you, or people leave when you fight so don’t fight with anyone, people shut you out so let’s make them happy so they do not do that to you. You will continue this pattern until you understand a better way to handle that situation. As an adult you can sit back and say, duh, I know I had nothing to do with that, but your little 5-year-old self did not. They are the one you have to go back and teach. Sit in that space and say “that was so wrong, they didn’t teach me how to handle emotions or situations.”  What is a better way to handle that?

If you want to break a pattern you do have to see where it started from. Hypnotherapy takes the short cut. Your brilliant mind stores all these little gems of dysregulation in your subconscious just waiting for you to come back and correct them. Until then you are in a loop of conditioning, a pattern of misunderstanding. In Hypnotherapy we look at these scenes together and process them the way it should have been handled. Lovingly letting them go.

I grew up thinking that if I just was one step ahead of others people’s emotions than mine were safe. There explosive, or silent treatment would hit my nervous system and my body would freeze. It sucked to always be waling on eggshells. Wondering what little thing would set them off. There for if I just ran ahead of them and made sure that everything was perfect that the outburst would not happen. Good in theory but that was not the case. SO not only was I trying to avoid their emotions, I was people pleasing to the very finest. It was never good enough.

What I should have been taught, was that people are responsible for their own emotions. It’s ok to have emotions. For the love of God, feel them, express them and let them go. We are not meant to hold onto them, nor project them onto another for them to figure out. It’s hard to sit in a space with someone that is crying, someone that is upset and angry. Our body feels awkward and has not been trained how to hold space without taking on others’ emotions. This is a skill we need to practice. Once you do, it is a game changer for everyone. You allow yourself to truly listen to the other. It builds trust in the relationship. It allows the other person to connect to themselves and you at the same time without feeling judged. Conversation will get easier. When you know that you can trust someone with your emotions and feeling, you go deeper with them. People just want to be understood and or heard. It does not mean they are right and you are wrong. We just need to hear their side without attacking, defending and shutting down prior to emotions being expressed. If you think about it, its all you want too. Why would they be any different?

I spent my youth and up until recently, managing other peoples’ emotions. I never even look at mine. By always dealing with theirs, I ignored mine. I never put what I wanted ahead of them. I would consider how it affected others over what gain I would get. I held myself back from shining, moving ahead with things that would really bring me joy. All to just make things smoother for them. I held myself back constantly and did not even know I was doing that. I kept myself small to let someone else feel big. I kept my mouth shut so they could speak nonsense. I let them tell me who I should be instead of knowing who I am. All because I had a belief that I needed to manage other peoples’ emotions to keep me safe. Our minds are brilliant and they do their very best to create ways that they think keep us safe and alive. At some point, we have to be aware that they no longer serve us. Some beliefs hold us back and need to go so we can be our potential.

Working on the shadow parts of us, the parts that just need light brought to them so they can be let go, is my most favorite part of life now. The freedom I see in people when these beliefs leave are magical. I want that for you.

Close your eyes, imagine what your life would feel like just managing how you feel each day. Say “Self, where would you go? What things would you do differently?”.  You could breathe, you could dream. You can be that person. You just need to put yourself first. It not selfish, it’s your life and you deserve this happiness too.

Getting used to the silence was harder than living with all the screaming.

Getting used to the silence was harder than living with all the screaming. While living my whole life in trauma and drama, one would think, how could that be? When your home is filled with screaming, fighting and often then the silent treatment, the dysregulation of emotions was the only thing constant. Never were there long moments of time when one could just breath. Just one day of reprieve would have been the most refreshing break. Walking on eggshells was the norm. Somedays the eggshells would have been nice, sometimes it felt like walking through minefields. Tip toe through explosive emotions. When those would blow, it wasn’t the wounded that got looked after, it was the one that set them off. This was normal. As an adult now, I can look back and completely understand the pressure and situation that surrounded me. As a child, I could not. If I close my eyes, I see myself looking like one might watch on a documentary on WW2. A little girl scrunched into a ball holding her ears as mistle are being dropped. The mass confusing swirling around her, as she freezes as close to the ground as she can get.

What people need to understand is, this is where beliefs are created and then stored until we can go back, feel and understand them. A childhood like this created normalcy for me. The inconsistent emotional neglect and abuse from all sorts of family members made it hard to even see that some homes felts safer than mine. We also were taught that what happens at home stays at home. Again, no outlet to express feelings or compare. This normalcy, then ripples out to the relationships that I drew towards me. Like magnets, I attracted relationships that would have looked very much like my childhood. As an adult, I allowed partners to treat me exactly the way I was brought up. I allowed and tolerated work situations to be abusive. We accept what is familiar to us even if it causes us pain. When we can heal the pain, we can make new choices.

My first hypnotherapy session was to heal a little girl that was sexually assaulted by her grandfather up to the age of 8. A discover that only surfaced at the age of 30, while going through a divorce. Shocking as that seems, I buried that shit so far down that not even those explosives from the childhood minefield could blow up. That session was so profound that I knew that someday, I was going to do this for others. I wanted others to feel the freedom that I did. When the healing for this little girl happened, my life started shifting. I was able to see things and handle situations as an adult would. Rather than the frozen 8-year-old. Understand this, the moment you freeze in a situation that you can’t understand, your processing life and situation from the lens of an 8-year-old. That is when the shift happened. I was now seeing how someone was treating me, but now my response was handled differently. I was the healed version. Kate 2.0. I do not put up with that shit. What I did not understand then, I do now. I am an adult and I do things better. I set better boundaries and I do not do toxic anymore.  

Fast forward to more healing with hypnosis and my bullshit meter went way down. I ripped my life apart. Full rapture people. I saw the foundation that I had built a life on was sand. If I wanted any redemption on life, I was starting over. That meant yes losing a lot but what I gained is priceless. Silence and peace. That too come with a price. Awkwardness. I had to get used to the uncomfortable. When you live for 46 years always waiting for the shoe to drop, walking on eggshells, the I’m never good enough feelings, the I have no idea how to get the fuck out of this mess! Then land in silence, one would think, finally I made it. Yes, you did. But that is not where it ends. Your body, your soul and you mind is not used to this. You feel like something is off, something is missing. Your nervous system has been in such a hyper overdrive that down shifting is really hard. This is where most people will circle back and go back to toxic relationships because in the silence, you do not know what to do with yourself. It is like the amazing gift you have always wanted, then you get it and it feels…. Wrong.

I can tell you, it’s normal. It will take time. You need that. You need to heal. You can not start to heal until you stop getting beaten. It takes 21 days to create new habits. The silence is painful at first, then you will settle into it and you will never allow yourself to step back into those relationships again. I will never tolerate now what I so blindly did back then.

I work with people, who feel like, getting out of these endless traps will never happen. I was the little girl that covered and hid from the world. I was too afraid to show up and shine. I was too afraid to speak my truth, go after the things I truly wanted and take up as much fucking space as I want. I thought that the screaming would never end, but it did. I now sit in silence, surrounded by peace and love every second, even though at first it was torture. You can do it too. You are not alone.

I was born pure love and light as were you!  I am here to show people that while we have built lives on foundations that are not ideal, at any age, you can change them. Live the life you want. Create your own beliefs.

Hypnotherapy saved my life. The direction I was going was unknown, I now know where I’m going and that is where ever the hell I want. I’m in control now.

Ask yourself, “Self, where would you go if there were no limits? What holds you back?”

Whose Game of Life are you playing?

There are two sides to every story and then there is the truth. When you can sit and hold space to hear all three sides, that is true transformation. Truth may not always be about being right because through each eye, they are right. The other wants you to see their reality. Their reality is their truth. As your reality is yours. What if we just looked at it as though they are just perception of what we have been told or shown as truth?

What if we pause and question, are the very things I have built my life, my foundation of life on, even true for me? Maybe it was someone’s truth, but is it mine?

Cultures across this world see things differently, and for many different reasons. Situations, misunderstanding and lack of connection leads to many beliefs being formed. This isn’t anything new. It has been happening since this world started spinning. Everyone and I mean everyone has their own experiences. Beliefs are passed down generation after generation. Ultimately, they are there to serve a purpose of some kind. To keep us alive and safe. It also gives us hope and faith. Beliefs are the conscious and unconscious laws and rules we use to run our life. Look at it like this, we are in a game of life. When we are born, we land on the board. We have no idea what the rules are. What do the other pieces mean? We put values on spots. Trade money to buy land just so we can drain the accounts from other people, just to win? Really, what is the point? We have been told the game is to WIN! Win at what?

At the end, the winner takes the fame, all the money and bragging the rights. The other players feel like failures, like they were not good enough and should have rolled the dice differently. All because someone told us how to play the game. Instead, if you had known that someone just made up the rules that you have just been unconsciously following. Maybe you would have not played. You just were playing their game, their rules. So, when you get mad and feel as though you have been taken advantage of, or something doesn’t quite resonate with you, it’s probably because you are playing their truth. It doesn’t feel good. Your truth feels different.

Real life is no different. We each have landed in countries, cities, small towns and families that have created beliefs for us. We are born into them. Our minds are doing what they know will keep us safe and alive. We choose to believe what someone shows us. We mirror it. We don’t know the difference. We don’t question. We carry on as if their experiences are our truths. Their hurts become ours. The way we are treated are the ways we accept or treat others. Perception is through our eyes.

After spending an entire life looking, feeling and hearing through others perspective on their experiences and then doing the inner work, man did my eyes open. Not only was I living other people’s truth but it was passed down truth.

How long are we going to spend living other peoples lives? Their misfortune? Their mistakes? Their choices? Beliefs that kept them stuck? Beliefs that limited where they could go and what they could do.

I have learned through Hypnosis that I needed to hold space for myself first. Find my truth. Uncover what makes me feel happy. Find what holds me back. I keep finding them, but instead of keeping it hidden, I bring them to the light. I change the belief that was installed and I transform it into a new belief that propels me towards the future I know with unshakeable conviction, I deserve.

I then can hold space for others, to help them see their truth. The shadows they are scared to see, the ones they don’t know that follow them around all day. The ones that hold them back. They are looking through truths that are not theirs.

This is where the magic happens. Once we can hold our own truth, allow others to hold their truth, true peace, connections and abundance happens. When you are happy living in your truth, living from an authentic soul, you have no desire to see others suffer, feel pain, manipulate to your gain. You don’t allow others to control you. Consciously or unconsciously. You live from peace and want the same for others.

I have never had a career where I feel like my true purpose was to serve others. In the past it was a mindset to work for others. Now, to me, sitting and holding space for people and getting to know who they are down to the deepest part of them is humbling but mostly honoring. The most precious gift I could get from someone is the trust they give me to help them to the light. The crazy thing is, all I am giving is space. Space to find their truth and for most of us, the parts of us we have never seen, knew existed or the truth of a future, where we control the game of life.

Ask yourself?  As my dad would say, “Self, what truth do you hold from yourself?  What truth do you deny in others? How do we hold space for others so we can see the truth between us?

Beliefs create games we play, rules that others have to follow. When you are ready to stop playing that game and take control, hypnotherapy is life changing. It changed my whole life. I am here to help change yours.

What we want, we already have.

The very things we want in life, already exists in us. Freedom, love, attention, wealth and abundance. The issues are, that we have been condition to look outside of us for it. Am I right? I know that has been my experience. As a little girl, I so desperately wanted to be loved. I wanted to be held, read too, played with, supported, laughed with, and understood for who I was, not what someone wanted me to be. Now there were moments that I did get those things, I’m not here to say my parents are horrible. They did the best they could with the skills they had. They too had their own struggles with childhood, that just trickles down through generations. I understand that and have great compassion for the generation before me, however, I’m not going to sit back and say my needs, very simple needs were not met. Because of that, I formed a belief that I was not good enough. Afterall, if they loved me, if I was good enough, they would have held me, read, played, supported, laughed and understood me. So, because that was so inconsistent, given then withheld, it made me believe also that love comes with conditions.  The worst is, I didn’t know what those conditions were. I would have done it, just to have what I desperately wanted and deserved.

As a small child I had no idea what I was missing, all we can do live through emotions. I can tell you, I felt sad, confused, lonely, rejected and unwanted. No, I never expressed that. None of us did. Most of us are raised to be seen and not heard so why would we know what is normal. My life would then play out to chase after love. Not a good one either. One, that like childhood, would play out familiar. AS the saying goes, “the names are made up but the problems are real”. Same problems just different names in each situation. I would be with someone that would give love then take it away, inconsistent, silent and then smothered in public. Play with me out but put me on a shelf at home. Not support me but expect all my support. Chasing for love in my adult life was the exact love life I grew up with.

Growing up I did not feel worthy of love, or great things and I really did not feel good enough. I created a magnet within myself that pulled others that felt exactly the same. A toxic combination, a cycle of neglect and abuse, love and rejection.

I did not know this was not normal; this had been my whole life.

This is how beliefs are formed, how we create a life around them. Good or bad. We were trying as children to understand what was going on around us. What’s normal, we will repeat.

We capture moments in time that we do not understand, we freeze. We hold onto all the emotions that we did not know how to process and how to understand so we hold onto them. WHAT WE DO NOT UNDERTAND WE HOLD ONTO TILL WE DO. Until someday we can understand and then let them go. So, for just 1 min, let that sink in. There are moments in time that are being stored in your body, just waiting for you to come back and make sense of them so they can be released. These moments are stored with emotions of fear, phobias, behaviors and even illness. They are not only just waiting to be released; they play roles in your life. They limit your success. They keep you stuck in bad relationships. They hide in your procrastination and in your lack of confidence. That sore throat you have because you have a fear of speaking up or owning your truth. That’s just one way these stored emotions show up.

I tell you these stories because I finally found my way out. A way to peace. A way to freedom. A purpose in life. My greatest challenges in life lead me here because of these beliefs and I could not be happier. I’m thankful for the lessons I learned, the teachers that gave them to me. Truly.

Hypnotherapy truly and profoundly changed my life. It is my purpose to help as many people feel the freedom, peace and connection that I have now in my life. To watch others, transform in front of me, sometimes brings tears to my eyes. Its like watching grief leave though someone’s eyes. I see pain leave bodies. There is a light that turns on, a weight that is gone that brings me so much joy.

To me, this is how I explain Hypnotherapy.

Every day you put yourself into dream like states, driving cars, day dreaming, right before your fall asleep and right before you wake up. We get you into this relaxing state and with my guidance, your brilliant mind know exactly were to go.

We then together go back to scenes, and like a best friend, I sit in that space with you. You are not reliving it. You are watching as an adult, but this time with understanding. Understanding is power and understanding is what liberates us. We then let go of those emotions from those moments, the beliefs we formed disappear too. Then we allow and create new beliefs that we know we deserve and want.  

Most people will say, “I don’t want to feel that again, it was too painful the first time”. I can say, true, but you are still feeling it every day. It affects you every day. You can keep shoving it down but the truth is, this pain holds you down, holds you back from a life you deserve.

Transform your beliefs and transform your life.

I can truly say, I wake up and say I LOVE MY LIFE, FINALLY I LOVE MY LIFE. I want that for you.

Fetching Sticks

Sticks are just things we chase after in life. We start out as puppies thinking, wow this is great, someone wants us. They picked me out of all the others, yay me! They must really love me. After all, they throw these wooden things, and I just love going and getting them. If I do it exactly the way they like, they tell me “I am good”. Sometimes they give me a treat or a reward of some sort, but most of the time they just toss it back out for me to fetch. After a while, I just get tired of chasing that damn stick.  What I really want most of the time is just a pat on the head, a walk through the woods, lots of attention and mostly love. I want to do the things that I love to do, but it seems all they are interested in are the Sticks.

Sounds like life to me. We come through our parents into this world with our own missions and purpose and somehow, we become the dog that fetches others sticks instead of our own. Life tells us to push through the hard moments and I finally called Bullshit on my life. I am the dog that was tired of fetching other people’s dreams and desires. Go get this and go get that, all to bring it back and it just be “okay”. That tiny treat or reward I got was not enough. I was never enough or at least that is how I felt. Then again, why would I not feel that way. I would hustle and hustle and still have no idea if I were getting anywhere or even pleasing them. It certainly did not feel like it. Where was I going in my own life? I was not chasing my dreams, only fetching theirs.

The dilemma arises when you no longer want to play fetch. Oh, they do not like that. They will say “what wrong with you?”. I would then feel like shit going back and chasing it again for a while. Just to come back with the same thought, “Kate, what the hell are you doing? You are better than this.” The struggles are real my friends. We lock ourselves into pleasing people because way back we formed a belief that to get love and attention, we needed to chase after it. That “it” was always what the other person wanted. Never consider what I might want and need. It never even crossed my mind that I had a choice. This is where beliefs are formed. Really young. We get so confused about what true love really means, that we attach a different meaning to it. We as humans crave love, attention, to be seen and heard and have purpose. Our beliefs will shape how we go about getting the life we want if we ever do.

I am a firm believer that we come into this world with a great mission. I always believed that. However, my childhood was full of trauma and drama and that continued for 45 years. Yes, 45 years. I thought I would never stop going after what others wanted me to do. Then one day, I had a wake-up call. I was tired of chasing sticks!

So, my question is, “Are you tired of chasing sticks?”

Fetch Hypnotherapy helps people find the beliefs that hold them back or behaviors that keep them stuck in life. Many people struggle with pain every day that shows up like depression, anxiety, people pleasing and addictions. Hypnotherapy is different than a lot of other therapies. RTT is fast and gets to the root of the issues, making transformation faster. We have spent our whole lives dealing with these beliefs and issues, why waste any more time carrying them around. People spend years trying to talk their way out of the life they have, RTT takes action. Lets start this journey together.