What we want, we already have.

The very things we want in life, already exists in us. Freedom, love, attention, wealth and abundance. The issues are, that we have been condition to look outside of us for it. Am I right? I know that has been my experience. As a little girl, I so desperately wanted to be loved. I wanted to be held, read too, played with, supported, laughed with, and understood for who I was, not what someone wanted me to be. Now there were moments that I did get those things, I’m not here to say my parents are horrible. They did the best they could with the skills they had. They too had their own struggles with childhood, that just trickles down through generations. I understand that and have great compassion for the generation before me, however, I’m not going to sit back and say my needs, very simple needs were not met. Because of that, I formed a belief that I was not good enough. Afterall, if they loved me, if I was good enough, they would have held me, read, played, supported, laughed and understood me. So, because that was so inconsistent, given then withheld, it made me believe also that love comes with conditions.  The worst is, I didn’t know what those conditions were. I would have done it, just to have what I desperately wanted and deserved.

As a small child I had no idea what I was missing, all we can do live through emotions. I can tell you, I felt sad, confused, lonely, rejected and unwanted. No, I never expressed that. None of us did. Most of us are raised to be seen and not heard so why would we know what is normal. My life would then play out to chase after love. Not a good one either. One, that like childhood, would play out familiar. AS the saying goes, “the names are made up but the problems are real”. Same problems just different names in each situation. I would be with someone that would give love then take it away, inconsistent, silent and then smothered in public. Play with me out but put me on a shelf at home. Not support me but expect all my support. Chasing for love in my adult life was the exact love life I grew up with.

Growing up I did not feel worthy of love, or great things and I really did not feel good enough. I created a magnet within myself that pulled others that felt exactly the same. A toxic combination, a cycle of neglect and abuse, love and rejection.

I did not know this was not normal; this had been my whole life.

This is how beliefs are formed, how we create a life around them. Good or bad. We were trying as children to understand what was going on around us. What’s normal, we will repeat.

We capture moments in time that we do not understand, we freeze. We hold onto all the emotions that we did not know how to process and how to understand so we hold onto them. WHAT WE DO NOT UNDERTAND WE HOLD ONTO TILL WE DO. Until someday we can understand and then let them go. So, for just 1 min, let that sink in. There are moments in time that are being stored in your body, just waiting for you to come back and make sense of them so they can be released. These moments are stored with emotions of fear, phobias, behaviors and even illness. They are not only just waiting to be released; they play roles in your life. They limit your success. They keep you stuck in bad relationships. They hide in your procrastination and in your lack of confidence. That sore throat you have because you have a fear of speaking up or owning your truth. That’s just one way these stored emotions show up.

I tell you these stories because I finally found my way out. A way to peace. A way to freedom. A purpose in life. My greatest challenges in life lead me here because of these beliefs and I could not be happier. I’m thankful for the lessons I learned, the teachers that gave them to me. Truly.

Hypnotherapy truly and profoundly changed my life. It is my purpose to help as many people feel the freedom, peace and connection that I have now in my life. To watch others, transform in front of me, sometimes brings tears to my eyes. Its like watching grief leave though someone’s eyes. I see pain leave bodies. There is a light that turns on, a weight that is gone that brings me so much joy.

To me, this is how I explain Hypnotherapy.

Every day you put yourself into dream like states, driving cars, day dreaming, right before your fall asleep and right before you wake up. We get you into this relaxing state and with my guidance, your brilliant mind know exactly were to go.

We then together go back to scenes, and like a best friend, I sit in that space with you. You are not reliving it. You are watching as an adult, but this time with understanding. Understanding is power and understanding is what liberates us. We then let go of those emotions from those moments, the beliefs we formed disappear too. Then we allow and create new beliefs that we know we deserve and want.  

Most people will say, “I don’t want to feel that again, it was too painful the first time”. I can say, true, but you are still feeling it every day. It affects you every day. You can keep shoving it down but the truth is, this pain holds you down, holds you back from a life you deserve.

Transform your beliefs and transform your life.

I can truly say, I wake up and say I LOVE MY LIFE, FINALLY I LOVE MY LIFE. I want that for you.