Fetching Sticks
Sticks are just things we chase after in life. We start out as puppies thinking, wow this is great, someone wants us. They picked me out of all the others, yay me! They must really love me. After all, they throw these wooden things, and I just love going and getting them. If I do it exactly the way they like, they tell me “I am good”. Sometimes they give me a treat or a reward of some sort, but most of the time they just toss it back out for me to fetch. After a while, I just get tired of chasing that damn stick. What I really want most of the time is just a pat on the head, a walk through the woods, lots of attention and mostly love. I want to do the things that I love to do, but it seems all they are interested in are the Sticks.
Sounds like life to me. We come through our parents into this world with our own missions and purpose and somehow, we become the dog that fetches others sticks instead of our own. Life tells us to push through the hard moments and I finally called Bullshit on my life. I am the dog that was tired of fetching other people’s dreams and desires. Go get this and go get that, all to bring it back and it just be “okay”. That tiny treat or reward I got was not enough. I was never enough or at least that is how I felt. Then again, why would I not feel that way. I would hustle and hustle and still have no idea if I were getting anywhere or even pleasing them. It certainly did not feel like it. Where was I going in my own life? I was not chasing my dreams, only fetching theirs.
The dilemma arises when you no longer want to play fetch. Oh, they do not like that. They will say “what wrong with you?”. I would then feel like shit going back and chasing it again for a while. Just to come back with the same thought, “Kate, what the hell are you doing? You are better than this.” The struggles are real my friends. We lock ourselves into pleasing people because way back we formed a belief that to get love and attention, we needed to chase after it. That “it” was always what the other person wanted. Never consider what I might want and need. It never even crossed my mind that I had a choice. This is where beliefs are formed. Really young. We get so confused about what true love really means, that we attach a different meaning to it. We as humans crave love, attention, to be seen and heard and have purpose. Our beliefs will shape how we go about getting the life we want if we ever do.
I am a firm believer that we come into this world with a great mission. I always believed that. However, my childhood was full of trauma and drama and that continued for 45 years. Yes, 45 years. I thought I would never stop going after what others wanted me to do. Then one day, I had a wake-up call. I was tired of chasing sticks!
So, my question is, “Are you tired of chasing sticks?”
Fetch Hypnotherapy helps people find the beliefs that hold them back or behaviors that keep them stuck in life. Many people struggle with pain every day that shows up like depression, anxiety, people pleasing and addictions. Hypnotherapy is different than a lot of other therapies. RTT is fast and gets to the root of the issues, making transformation faster. We have spent our whole lives dealing with these beliefs and issues, why waste any more time carrying them around. People spend years trying to talk their way out of the life they have, RTT takes action. Lets start this journey together.
