Healing your relationships start with you.
We need to accept people for who and where they are in life and sometimes it’s not them that need to change. It is us. We need to accept that we need more and that is not selfish. That they are giving all they can. You can only love someone as much as you love yourself. You can only accept as much love as you were given as a child. When you pour love onto someone that can’t accept it, it feels gross to them. Sounds strange, I know. Love doesn’t always feel good, even though from your prospective it is kind and loving. They can’t handle how that feels on the inside of their body. The emotional body would experience the same kind of response that the physical body would experience if a person didn’t eat for weeks, water only, then ate a steak. Their belly would have the worse stomach pains because it wasn’t used to having to digest food. It would then take time for the body to work up to the point where eating food became normal without pain. Emotional starvation is the same. If someone that has never had consistent love, kind words, attention, admiration or feel worthy, they too would need time to adjust. Unfortunately, people understand physical eating and diet much better than what our subconscious and emotional bodies need.
You also can not ask others to give you something they actually cannot. They cannot give you something like kind words, attention, truth, honesty if they don’t possess themselves. It would be like asking a blind person to describe a rainbow to you. It is not their fault they can’t. The pain and frustration between your relationship is trying to give each other what you don’t have or won’t accept.
You can’t do the work for them. Everyone has a journey. Not everyone sees they could change for the better or even want to change. Change is something that happens every day, regardless if we see it or not. Yet, people fear it. You have to be willing to accept people for where they are. They may not be willing to change. So instead, work on you. Someone or something is waiting for your kind of love, your type of relationship, commitment and communication. If you keep holding out and waiting for this person, or career to change, you are only holding yourself back.
The real healing starts when you know in your heart that you should move on but don’t know how. There is a trapped emotion in you that says to hold on for some subconscious reason. You will have this constant fight between your head and your heart every day. I’ll tell you; emotions (your heart) will win every time. Your emotions tell you mind what to do. Not the other way around. Once your emotions have had the clarity of why you can’t let go or move on, you will move on. Understanding is power, and in Hypnosis we use the subconscious to get to the root of the issue, transform the belief. Not in years, but profound healing, sometimes in a few sessions. Habits and limiting beliefs that would take years to unravel with traditional therapy. You then can create wonderful relationships, new careers and life styles that you actually love and deserve.
We all have a journey. Yours is to heal, grow and be you. When you start healing you, you start healing the world.
