What’s in your box of Beliefs?
I have spent my whole life walking around with the box. This is a box that I keep all my stored memories, thoughts and beliefs of my past in. It’s a problem-solving box. It’s filled with all the things that I was taught a child, good and bad. It has all my mistakes. Things I didn’t understand. It has all my gifts and talents in there too. We were trained to stay within the box. My mind can’t tell the difference between the good and the unhelpful. Each time I had situations that I didn’t understand, lessons that I was taught or witnessed and didn’t understand, I tossed it into the box, knowing that someday I would need it. Now fast forward to today, I find myself bumping into something that is a challenging situation, a lifestyle change or something unexpected and the first thing I do, is reach into this box and pull out what fits the best from my stored information. If you have ever played “What in Ned’s Head” it’s kind of like that, or kind of like a Mary Poppins bag. You stick your arm in and grab onto the first thing and pull it out not even knowing what it is. When it doesn’t work, you scramble around back into the box looking for something else to fix the problem, but again you pulled out other things that doesn’t work. Again, again you do this. Frustrating right. We spend our lives unconsciously reaching for solutions in a box of beliefs that has been a catch all for other people’s perceptions of the world, their thoughts on religion, politics, behaviors, preferences, money, success, family and so much more. Think about it. It’s a box that others have just thrown random ass stuff into. Yes, some of the stuff is good. Some has kept you alive and safe but there now has come a time when you’re looking at your life saying, WTF? Wondering why life isn’t going the way you want but you can’t figure it out. That is because you are trying to live out of a box that was created for you and the things in there, don’t fit how you actually feel. When you are butting up to things that are awkward or not working, instead of backing away, leaning into why and what isn’t working then changing, we stay within the box to try and figure it out.
If you are trying to make more money, and no matter how hard you try to make more, you seem to hit the limit. That is because in your box of beliefs you could have been taught that money is hard to make. It will always be a struggle. Money is evil. People with money are bad. There isn’t enough to go around. I’ll just loose it. I am bad with money. Countless stories that you could have heard or been programmed as a child.
If you want to be in a good relationship, yet the partners that you attract seem to be the same person with a different name. That is because in your box of beliefs you could have been taught that men are cheaters. That you should leave them before they leave you. You need to earn love to have love. I didn’t receive love as a child so why start now. Love always hurts.
If you want a career, but keep settling for jobs that don’t pay well, your treated badly and you won’t leave. That is because your box of beliefs could have parents that expected you to follow in their steps, be like them. You could have heard artist will starve. Work is hard and no one likes their jobs, and you have to work 9-5. College is the only way to success. Quitters never win.
Those thoughts sit in that box with you and that’s all you have to help you. We don’t spend any time in that box and just look at what’s in there, do you? It never even dawned on me to do that. In the box is also all the feelings related to these beliefs and that is what makes them so strong. Oh, the guilt, shame, resentment. Emotions and beliefs go hand in hand. The stronger emotional grip that is on the belief, the strong it holds you back. Visualize standing in a box, you want more money, but you have one parent holding your arm, a grandparent holding their leg, and great-grandparents sitting on them. That is generational limits. With all the weight attached you, how do you think you will get out of the box? How are you going to make more money when for generations they have thrown into the box that money is bad. These are not your thoughts or your beliefs. They are hand-me-down. You have had no personal experience of money exchange only through the words of the past. I think it’s about time that we sit in the box and take a look at how this stuff got here and what you want to keep and what you want to toss.
People have this misconception that shadow work or hypnotherapy will bring up things from corners that are too scared to look at and they don’t think that they can handle. I get that. Things that we are not familiar with we tiptoe around. May I remind you that, every day you do things that hurt you. You are just doing it unconsciously. Not leaving a relationship that is toxic or not aligned with whom you are is hurting you. You won’t leave a job that sucks and that is unfulfilling, that is hurting you. No matter what you try you can’t seem to lose the weight, have friends or make big changes, that too is hurting you. You don’t see that these things everyday as hurting you? It seems like survival to me.
Our minds want to keep us safe. What we think will keep us safe are things that are in the box that someone else put there. Again, not all things that are in there are bad. It is however up to us to go back into the box and clean house.
We were trained at such a small age to color within the line, don’t get outside of the box. Three things you can do now as an adult, decide that you can choose the color for the box, you can toss the box if it doesn’t work for you. Find the shape you want to live in and find joy.
Up until now you haven’t been managing your box. It has been managing you. You now have the right and permission to manage your own box of beliefs. Questions your beliefs, emotions, thought and focus on what you do want, what would work for you.
I am committed to work with those that are ready to see what is in the box of beliefs. I know that together we can unpack what doesn’t work any longer, what’s keep in you stuck, where your desire and purpose are.
Transform your life into a life that you want. Where it doesn’t hurt every day? Where do you need more joy and contentment. I want people to see the light, feel the ease and do the same for others. Join me in creating a world that is loving and start fetching a life worth fighting for.
